Perdre un proche marque une rupture dans nos vies. Cette rupture interagit avec un collectif, les lieux où nous vivons ou encore les structures sociales et politiques qui norment nos existences. Face à l'apparente solitude du deuil, la mort de l’autre interroge notre identité en tant qu’êtres fondamentalement relationnels. Traverser un deuil, c’est se retrouver confronté à la violence et au non-sens de la perte sur lesquels aucun mot, de prime abord, ne peut être posé. C’est pourtant à partir de cet indicible et incommunicable du deuil que peut émerger la question du sens et d’un rapport à soi, aux autres et au monde redéfini par la perte.
Dans la continuité de l’expérience, les savoirs et les discours sur le deuil et la perte influencent nos représentations de la mort et de l’accompagnement de la fin de vie. Ils interrogent plus largement le lien social : en quoi la réflexion sur le deuil nous engage en tant que citoyen.ne ? L’expression « faire son deuil » est alors à questionner : loin d’un impératif, il est question d’ouvrir des pistes de réflexion autour de la créativité humaine – parfois inattendue – face à l’expérience de souffrance et de rupture que constitue la mort de l’autre.
The loss of a loved one causes the world and the place of the bereaved survivor in it to change irreversibly. A key aspect of the grieving process is the integration of the loss in the bereaved survivor’s life story, identity change, and a new future orientation through meaning attribution. Meaning attribution can have favourable or unfavourable effects on the grieving process and hence determines the extent to which a loss disrupts the bereaved survivor’s functioning. A framework of meaning attribution after loss is presented, comprising 17 determinants that fall into five categories: event-related, cultural, social, individual and relational determinants. Each determinant may lead to both positive and negative meanings, thereby facilitating or complicating the grieving process. The framework of meaning attribution highlights the importance of an integrated network for mental health care, spiritual care, and end-of-life care in the prevention and treatment of traumatic grief. It also emphasizes the support from relatives, collective rituals, cultural views, legal settlements, and other societal factors that may foster or impede adaptation to loss. The framework of meaning attribution informs research across a range of research themes, including specialist care for traumatic grief, a culturally sensitive care network for traumatic grief, and improving care for ambiguous loss in a global context.
La maladie d’Alzheimer confronte l’entourage à un proche qui disparaît progressivement de la personne qu’ils ont connue. Ce chemin vers un autre aimé que l’on ne reconnaît pas est difficile tant il est semé de pertes de ce qui a été et n’est plus. L’acceptation de ces pertes est douloureuse, mais ce n’est qu’à ce prix que les liens avec cette personne peuvent se poursuivre.
This chapter characterizes meaning-making in the context of grief during bereavement, emphasizing its fundamentally social nature and offering several approaches to identifying the extent and nature of the meaning the bereaved has made of a loss. Theoretical developments and empirical research are presented to highlight the crucial role that meaning-making appears to play in recovery and posttraumatic growth following the death of a significant person. By contrast, disrupted meaning-making is described as a mediator of impairing bereavement outcomes, particularly prolonged grief disorder. Clinical procedures and techniques for facilitating meaning-making among the bereft are detailed, including a discussion of their therapeutic rationale and indications for their use in grief therapy. A case vignette illustrates the concepts and clinical processes reviewed in the chapter.
Le traitement contemporain de la mort est examiné sous l’angle de la psychanalyse à travers l’étude de travaux d’historiens, de philosophes ou d’écrivains, de témoignages personnels, de discours et de pratiques. Une des questions centrales porte sur la façon dont les sujets, dans une époque marquée par l’érosion du vivre-ensemble, inventent une solution personnelle pour composer avec la perte.
Sous forme d’un journal allant de 2005 à 2019, l’auteur retrace son histoire d’amour avec Christophe, son époux mort à la suite d’une prise mortelle de drogues de synthèse. Il raconte leur rencontre, leurs combats communs, les circonstances de sa disparition et son propre deuil, de même qu’il alerte les pouvoirs publics sur la circulation de ces substances.
Methods: As in life at large, ideas of 'self' underlie a great deal of theory and practice in palliative care and in bereavement care, they are frequently implicit, being part of shared cultural assumptions, but may assume a degree of theoretical abstraction when fostered by professionals. This article considers the latter, arguing for an interpretation of 'self' influenced by the anthropological notion of dividual or composite personhood and not for that of the autonomous, relatively insular individual typified in much postmodern culture.
Results: After depicting both types of personhood, the article explores Western theories of grief typified in the approaches of attachment and loss, continuing bonds with the dead and narrative approaches to identity.
Discussion: The dividual approach to personhood then drives a theoretical critique of those grief theories as a means of reflecting upon palliative and bereavement care.
Conclusion: This alignment of palliative and bereavement care is seen as an entailment of the dividual approach to personhood, while further consequences are raised for analysing memory, dreams and visitations of the dead, as well as providing a potential perspective upon memory loss and the dissonance experienced by relatives of someone who no longer recognizes them.
Background: While grief research has focused on death-related losses and distressed outcomes, contemporary findings suggest that role losses can lead to grief, and growth can accompany grief. The current study aimed to replicate and extend the Papa, Lancaster, & Kahler, 2014 study by: (1) assessing common loss responses (prolonged grief, major depression, posttraumatic stress) and role centrality among bereaved, divorced, and unemployed individuals, and (2) exploring posttraumatic growth and stress appraisals among loss groups.
Method: A cross-sectional online survey was completed by 372 recently bereaved, divorced, and unemployed individuals. Exploratory factor analysis assessed common loss responses in the bereaved group. In the sample, multiple regressions assessed the relationship between role centrality, stress appraisals, and outcome variables (prolonged grief, posttraumatic growth); correlational analysis assessed the relationship between posttraumatic growth and psychopathology variables; qualitative analysis assessed examples of posttraumatic growth.
Results: A subset of each loss group reported prolonged grief and posttraumatic growth. Prolonged grief was a distinct factor from major depression and posttraumatic stress. Role centrality and stress appraisals were significantly associated with outcome variables. There was a weak, positive relationship between posttraumatic growth and psychopathology variables.
Limitations: Limitations included convenience sampling and a cross-sectional study design, which precluded assessing responses over time. Strengths included replicating existing literature and incorporating a strength-based measure.
Conclusions: Prolonged grief can emerge from death-related loss and role loss. Also, posttraumatic growth can accompany prolonged grief. In clinical practice, loss can be conceptualized broadly beyond bereavement and addressed with the potential for posttraumatic growth.
Although there is an increased need for delivery of bereavement care, many health care providers in acute care hospital settings feel inadequately prepared to deliver quality grief support, have lack of time, and have inexperience in provision of bereavement care. As a result, although families would like health care providers to offer bereavement support, they are inadequately trained and susceptible to burnout, resulting in families not having their needs met. The purpose of this qualitative study was to uncover the social process occurring in a bereavement education workshop titled "How to Care, What to Say" offered to health care providers. The goal of the workshop was to improve delivery of care for the dying and their family by providing holistic care to the family before, during, and after the death of a loved one. Past grief workshop participants who cared for the bereaved were interviewed, and data were analyzed and synthesized using constructivist grounded theory. Individual interviews and focus group data revealed participants' perceptions, learnings, and potential integration of the workshop into practice. The overarching theory of providing bereavement care that emerged from the data is "a relational process of understanding knowledge, self-awareness, moral responsibilities, and advancing grief competencies of providing holistic grief support."
Patients with dementia may be discharged from hospice if their condition stabilizes. The loss of professional support and an already complex grief process needs careful attention. A live discharge presents a unique experience for each hospice patient, caregiver, and hospice team, which varies from traditional bereavement theories used to describe the grieving process. This article explores live discharge from hospice for caregivers of adults with dementia through a theoretical lens of Symbolic Interactionism (SI) and Attachment Theory (AT). The theories of SI and AT support and assist in understanding the experience of caregivers who lose hospice support due to ineligibility. In addition, caregivers watch the gradual deterioration and psychological loss of someone with dementia while they remain alive described as an ambiguous loss. Ambiguous loss as a subset of traditional bereavement theories provides a framework for this exploration and provides a relevant illustration of the complex needs. This article will conclude with implications for social work practice. It is important for hospice clinicians to be aware of current termination practices necessary to manage appropriate attachments, support the symbolic meaning of the hospice experience, validate the ambiguous losses, and maintain a sense of hope through a live discharge from hospice.
The loss of a significant other often creates emotional distress for family members that can hamper the ability to meet everyday challenges and pursue wellness. The aim of this qualitative study was to understand the challenge of losing a significant other for older adult family members and the approaches identified as most helpful to promote their own well-being after this person dies. Story inquiry method guided the interview process with 15 older adult bereaved family members residing in a continuing care retirement community. Theory-guided content analysis was used for data analysis. Two themes described the challenges: uneasiness that permeates everyday living and precious memories and patterns of disconnect that breed discontent. Appreciating the rhythmic flow of everyday connecting and separating and embracing reality as situated in one’s lifelong journey are the themes that encompass the helpful approaches used by participants. This study provided insights about the benefits of living in this community such as social networking and a possible drawback such as the frequency of death among residents. Future research should continue to investigate social service resources that older adults find most helpful after a significant other dies and the use of reminiscence groups as a form of bereavement support.
This paper explores how young people who are living with a parent who is dying talk about the future. Drawing on a qualitative, interview study, I argue that young people are able to move imaginatively beyond the death of a parent, and in doing so, to maintain a sense of biographical continuity. While thinking about the future, most were able to generate an alternative to the ‘harm story’ typically associated with parental loss. Furthermore, the facility to engage with parental absence in the present enabled young people to make sense of living with dying, and gave meaning to their imagined futures. These findings suggest that young people's narratives of the future may act as a symbolic resource to draw on, albeit one requiring adequate material and social resources to construct. The paper extends the notion of continuing bonds derived from post-bereavement accounts to suggest that relational experiences of the dead begin prior to bereavement, and may facilitate everyday living in anticipation of significant loss. Enabling young people to imaginatively explore the future may support them in getting by when they are living in these difficult family circumstances.
La mort d’un d’enfant provoque chez les parents une douleur incommensurable. À travers le témoignage d’une mère endeuillée, nous suivrons le long travail de séparation permettant d’atténuer cette souffrance. Nous verrons comment la théorie classique sur le deuil, élaborée par Freud, ne peut éclairer de façon satisfaisante la spécificité du deuil d’enfant.
Tu es handicapé. Tu es mort. Tu avais quinze ans. Yannick, ton visage est encore dessiné par le souvenir, comme un papier calque collé sur une vitre. Mais les contours s'estompent et les couleurs s'effacent, un peu comme un paysage que l'on devine à peine dans la brume. Les traits de ma fille qui vient de naître vont-ils effacer les tiens ? Et si, avec le temps, ma mémoire ne parvenait plus à les retrouver ?
Dans ce récit intimiste adressé à son frère défunt, Magali Hack explore, avec sobriété et authenticité, les douleurs et les joies de nos existences et pose des questions essentielles : la perte, la filiation et le temps qui passe.
The experience of same-sex-attracted people who have lost a partner is neglected in the existing literature on bereavement. Previous research on lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, queer and questioning (LGBTIQ) populations tends to focus on the loss of a partner to HIV-related causes, and there is scant research concerning non-HIV-related bereavement. The purpose of this article is to investigate the non-HIV-related bereavement experiences of same-sex partners and to address the potential complications of disenfranchised grief. Coping with the loss of a same-sex partner and the impact of bereavement on subsequent relationships are also discussed. Implications for counseling of bereaved same-sex-attracted individuals are drawn, and recommendations for future psychological research on the experience of bereavement are made.
To add to the dialogue regarding the long-term recovery and wellbeing of war and tsunami-affected women in Sri Lanka, we utilised the Conservation of Resources Theory (COR, Hobfoll, 2009) to inform an investigation of direct and indirect effects. The study was specifically designed to assess how traumatic exposure may represent a form of loss which may associate with related losses in the form of external and internal stigma which may then associate with poor mental health outcomes. The data for this study were collected in 2016 from a sample of 379 widowed women in Eastern Sri Lanka; participant spouses died in the civil war, in the tsunami, or from health or other problems. Our analyses yielded a model suggesting associations between remembered trauma event exposure from war and disaster, external stigma, internalised stigma and mental health symptom distress. Results further yielded direct and indirect effects suggesting that trauma may represent a form of loss, and potentially lead to distress through the weight and challenges of stigma.
BACKGROUND: Although perinatal deaths are still a common pregnancy outcome in developing countries, little is known about the effect perinatal death has on fathers.
OBJECTIVE: The aim of the study was to understand and describe the meaning of perinatal death in a sample of fathers from northeastern Colombia.
METHODS: Using purposive and snowball sampling approaches, we identified 15 participants from northeastern Colombia who agreed to participate. We used a descriptive phenomenological design. Data were collected through in-depth, semistructured interviews.
RESULTS: Men suffer in solitude and hide their emotions as they feel the need to be the main supporters of their partners. Three major themes emerged: experience of loss, coming to terms with an irreparable loss, and overcoming the loss.
DISCUSSION: While women are receiving care, health staff may neglect or forget men. Men suffer alone while seeking ways of attunement with their partners' emotions to support them during the grieving process. Fathers can overcome and adjust to the loss when they transcend it and find new meaning. Men felt neglected and marginalized at hospitals while their partners were receiving treatment. Health professionals should recognize and acknowledge the pain of fathers who face perinatal death and include them as much as possible in the standard of care. The results identify opportunities for healthcare providers in clinical and outpatient settings to acknowledge the importance of men within the context of pregnancy and to learn about their pain and suffering when they face a perinatal death.