Apprenant sa mort prochaine, trop précoce, Eve a voulu ce grand cahier pour que son aimé, ses amis, l'accompagnent vers l'inconnu. Avec ce témoignage écrit qui leur est demandé, elle fait aussi un sublime et dernier cadeau á ceux qui l'ont aimée, pour les aider dans leur propre chemin, aux confins de la vie et de la mort, du chagrin et de l'amour. Voici une contribution pour tenter de comprendre un peu le mystère du vivant, celui de l'être dans ses profondeurs, une narration pour toucher le coeur, une poésie sans illusion mais déterminée pour dire l'indicible alors même que les mots semblent vains.
De ce récit, roman poétique, roman épistolaire, le lecteur ressortira bouleversé mais gonflé d'amour, quand les larmes sécheront. Par la forme originale créant une musique des mots si pénétrante, par la puissance d'un texte semblant naître du plus profond de nos entrailles, le premier roman de Xavier Hurbin bouscule le genre et emmène le lecteur dans une expérience poignante et édifiante, déchirante et apaisante.
Compared with clear-cut loss by death, ambiguous loss is defined as a loss that is not definite because the person is missing or mentally absent but physically present (e.g., through Alzheimer's disease). We expected the ambiguity of loss to show in psychologically more compromised loss memories and self-defining memories, but not in autobiographical memories in general. Thirty Chinese adults who had lost a parent through death, thirty whose parent had gone missing, and thirty who cared for a demented parent narrated their loss experiences and memories of sad and turning-point events as well as self-defining memories. Individuals with ambiguous loss narrated the loss and a self-defining memory with more contamination and fewer redemption sequences, and only the loss memory with fewer themes of agency and communion than individuals with definite loss, but not in memories of sad and turning point events. Effects of ambiguity of loss were independent of prolonged grief, which in turn independently predicted some of these effects. Thus the ambiguous quality of loss predicts effects on loss memories and self-defining memories independently of psychiatric symptoms.
Autobiographical memory has an important influence on the mental health of bereaved people. In this study, we conducted a questionnaire survey of 372 shiduers (parents who have lost their only child) to investigate the moderating role of familistic emotion in the effect of autobiographical memory function on depression and anxiety in shiduers. The results show that when either self-function or directive-function is the independent variable, familistic emotion plays a moderating role; however, when social function is the independent variable, familistic emotion does not play a moderating role. This article discusses the reasons for these results.
Cognitive decline and dementia have become major concerns for many individuals reaching later life within contemporary Western societies. This fear of decline is central to the social divide between the third age embodying ideals of maintained health, activity and lifestyle choices, and the fourth age, a social imaginary encompassing the irreversible decline associated with ageing. In this article, we explore how brain-training technologies have become successful by relying on tensions between the third and fourth ages. We review current debates on the concepts contained in brain training and examine the emphasis on the moral virtue of ‘training the brain’ in later life as an extension of fitness and health management. We underline the limited consideration given to social positioning within old age itself in the literature. We further argue that using brain-training devices can support a distancing from intimations of dementia; a condition associated with an ‘ageing without agency’. Drawing on Bourdieu, we use the concept of distinction to describe this process of social positioning. We discuss the impact that such ‘technologies of distinction’ can have on people with dementia by ‘othering’ them. We conclude that the issue of distinction within later life, particularly within the field of cognitive decline, is an important aspect of the current culture of active cognitive ageing.
As digital outlets of expression become increasingly accessible, means of conveying grief and commemorating the deceased have migrated online. Online memorial websites such as UK-based Muchloved.com boasts thousands of Tributes created by the bereaved to remember the deceased. Many of these Tributes sketch out a rough picture of the person commemorated through text detailing their personal lives, professions, hobbies, and accomplishments, as well as photographs capturing intimate moments with family and community, and condolences contributed by family, friends, and community members. This article examines how stories of migration figure in this large pool of digital Tributes. We draw from Moncur and Kirk’s “emergent framework” for the study of digital memorials by analyzing 17 Tributes on MuchLoved.com, which commemorated individuals who, according to these Tributes, migrated from one nation to another. We find that the practices and conventions of memorial-writing to commemorate first-generation immigrants perpetuate narratives of exceptionality.
This paper focuses exclusively on inscriptions on roadside memorials. We conducted a review of studies of roadside memorial inscriptions and a field study of 29 inscriptions found on 156 roadside memorials in Poland to understand the similarities and differences between these inscriptions and those in other countries. The uniqueness of Polish inscriptions is their religious meaning. They reflect the inscription authors’ and/or the deceased’s relationship with Catholicism. We proposed a typology of inscriptions (limited and developed) that may be useful in further comparative studies on roadside memorialization.
BACKGROUND: Finding alternative ways to reconnect with the deceased is a common feature of bereavement. However, it is currently unclear how bereaved children or young people establish and develop a "continuing bond" with deceased family members.
AIM: To investigate how bereaved young people continue bonds with deceased family members.
DESIGN: A systematically conducted narrative review was conducted using six electronic databases: CINAHL, Medline, EMBASE, PsycINFO, PubMed, and BNI. Limiters were applied to peer-reviewed articles published in English. Studies were assessed for methodological quality using the Joanna Briggs Institute Critical Appraisal Tools.
RESULTS: Twenty articles were included in the review. Three overarching themes were generated: unintended connections, intended connections, and internalized connections.
CONCLUSION: Bereaved young people establish a sense of connection with deceased family members through various means (e.g., unprovoked or spontaneous reminders, physical mementos, internalized memories). Some connections are unintended and occur spontaneously. However, other young people will specifically seek ways to remember the deceased to provide a sense of enduring connection.
Researchers have been interested in the subject of accompanying individuals who experienced a child’s terminal illness and death, sharing their grief online. Using The Reiss Motivation Profile and qualitative methods, the authors identified the life motives of emotional rubberneckers–grief blog and memorial page readers. Key reasons for the regular behavior of this kind are found: interest in the protagonist’s health, compassion, will to help, and sense of bonding. Such activity provides support to the respondents. Readers’ important life motives include the substantial need to care for their loved ones, to be needed, emotional stability, and a low need for power.
The efficacy of expressive writing for bereavement remains unclear, although some evidence suggests that writing about positive memories of one’s loved one may be particularly beneficial. The current pilot study compared the effects of a brief positive expressive writing intervention for enhancing positive affect among bereaved adults (N = 403). Participants were randomly assigned to write about a positive memory of the deceased person or recent neutral activity. Results revealed no main effect of the positive writing condition on mood change. However, greater positive emotion word use mediated positive affect among those in the positive writing condition.
To explore possible distinctive features of online memorials for youth suicides, amid concerns about glorification, we compared public Facebook memorials for suicides and road traffic accident deaths, using Linguistic Inquiry and Word Count software. People who posted on memorial sites wrote at greater length about suicides, using longer words and more quotation marks. Words suggesting causation and achievement were more prevalent in suicide memorials. Thematic content for the two types of death was more similar than different. Suicide memorial posts had more tentative words, non-fluencies, and question marks, suggesting that people were struggling to make sense of these deaths.
Objective : To summarize and synthesize extant literature on memory making in bereavement care for parents who experience the death of a newborn and to identify opportunities for future research.
Data Sources : We conducted a systematic search of four health-related databases (MEDLINE Complete, CINAHL Complete, Embase, and PsychINFO) for original research in January 2019. We then conducted a manual search of the reference lists of all included articles and a citation search via Scopus.
Study Selection : Selection criteria initially included all original research articles available in English that related to parents’ perceptions of perinatal or neonatal palliative care or bereavement care for parents after the death of a newborn. These criteria were refined as we developed familiarity with the available literature. Our initial screening of article titles and abstracts yielded 287 articles for full-text review. After full-text analysis, we included all 25 qualitative or mixed method research articles that met selection criteria.
Data Extraction : We used a spreadsheet modeled on the Joanna Briggs Institute Review Guidelines (2015) for data extraction.
Data Synthesis : Available research was focused primarily on parents’ perceptions of care during and after the death of their newborns. Memory making interventions emerged as significant elements of the experiences of bereaved parent. Several researchers examined parents’ perceptions of specific memory making interventions, such as bereavement photography. Contact with the newborn, opportunities for caregiving, bereavement photography, and the collection or creation of mementos emerged as important elements of memory making. Parents also identified a need for guidance about each of these key strategies for memory making.
Conclusion : We identified few studies focused entirely on memory making as an intervention in the context of bereavement care for parents. However, memory making emerged as a recurring theme throughout qualitative and mixed method studies on parents’ perceptions of perinatal or neonatal end-of-life care. Further research is required to provide evidence to guide memory making interventions for bereaved parents who experience the death of a newborn.
BACKGROUND: Legacy-making (i.e., a way for patients with terminal illness to create or do something for others as a means of remembrance) is rising in popularity in palliative medicine, although only one study has examined its impact in a pediatric population.
OBJECTIVE: In response to the gaps in literature, this study (1) examines the impact of legacy artwork on bereaved caregivers' psychological functioning and grief and (2) compares caregivers' perceptions of support provided by the hospital throughout their child's cancer journey between the intervention and control groups.
METHODS: Forty-four caregivers whose children died of cancer completed a demographic questionnaire specifically created for this study, the Brief Symptom Inventory-18, and the Prolonged Grief Disorder-13. They also answered questions regarding supportive services provided to them toward the end of the child's life, at the time of death, and after the child's death. Those caregivers who endorsed participating in legacy artwork were identified as the intervention group, whereas those who did not were classified as the control group.
RESULTS: There were no significant differences in psychological functioning among caregivers who participated in legacy artwork versus those who did not participate. However, caregivers who created legacy artwork with their child reported significantly less symptoms of prolonged grief and a greater perception of support from health care providers compared with caregivers who did not engage in this activity.
CONCLUSION: Although preliminary, these findings suggest that legacy artwork may have the potential to improve grief and overall satisfaction of support from the hospital in bereaved caregivers.
Une petite fille décide un matin de faire l'école buissonière... Elle a besoin de refaire le chemin, qu'elle parcourait avec son grand-père qui vient de mourir, dans la Nature qu'il lui a appris à aimer. Elle prend le temps de se remémorer leurs bons moments.
Hannah évoque tous les bons moments passés avec ses cousins dans la maison de ses grands-parents pendant les vacances et en particulier ceux passés en compagnie de son grand-père. Elle vit les derniers moments de celui-ci, l'enterrement et le retour chez elle. Tous les souvenirs, les leçons de vie pleines d'amour se gravent dans son coeur.
Ce roman parle de la transmission et des souvenirs avec beaucoup de tendresse, de légèreté et de drôlerie.
En trois textes qui s’enchaînent, Françoise Lison-Leroy interroge la place prise par chacun dans sa famille, les présents comme les absents, ceux à la longue vie ou les enfants partis trop tôt. Comme cette tante de deux ans, emportée par la fièvre dans un temps où la vie des enfants était plus fragile.
Au cimetière du village, sa tombe côtoie celles d’autres enfants ; un respect sacré, partagé, inné entoure ce petit coin du cimetière. Sa présence habite les pensées et les promenades de l’auteure. Evocations légères, souvenirs, bribes glanées au fil des pérégrinations, mémoire de la famille... ce qui reste de vie pour ceux qui grandissent. Précédée par cet enfant, l’auteure se sent aussi portée par celle qui lui offre alors une bienveillante attention. Elle tisse un monde où les sentiments se transmettent par-delà les mots.
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Today every aspect of our life is published and shared online, including grief. The virtual cemeteries and social networks' use could be considered as a new modern mortuary ritual. Starting from the keyword stillbirth, 50 videos published on YouTube since 2008 have been analyzed qualitatively. The videos, 70% published by the mother, with an average length of 5.52 minutes, a mean of 2,429,576 views and 2,563 of comments, follow a sort of script: the second part with black and white photos, background music, and religious references. Could the continuous access to the child's technological grave encourage a complicated grief or be a support, given by the interaction with users, limiting the sense of isolation. The parent shows his or her own conceptions about death and, as a modern baptism, presents the child to the whole society. Videos keep child's memory alive and fuel a process of personalization and tenderness in the user.
Sept nouvelles comme un palimpseste rêveur où l’apparition fugitive des morts hante les vivants et s’enlace à l’enfance, toujours visiteuse de notre vie.
Et dans ce tenace cheminement de l’amour se mêlent l’oubli, inlassable veilleur de ce grand territoire, et l’irrémédiable, féconde et fondatrice ombre portée de l’absence.
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